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The No-Sorry Email Guide

What to say instead of "sorry," so your emails sound kind, clear, and like you on your best day.

  • 20 swaps: instead of saying this, say that
  • 3 real before-and-afters, rewritten by Tiffany
  • A 30-second pre-send check you can keep next to your inbox
  • Why we over-apologize, the brain-based version, with sources

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A few swaps from the guide

Sorry to bother you, but…

Start with your ask.

Sorry, would it maybe be possible to move the deadline?

"I'd like to move the deadline to Tuesday. Will that work?"

So sorry, but I can't make it.

"I'm afraid I won't be able to make Thursday's sync."

Common questions

What's in the No-Sorry Email Guide?

Ten pages: why a reflex "sorry" happens (the brain-based version, with sources), 20 swaps for what to say instead, 3 real before-and-after emails, a 30-second pre-send check, and when "sorry" is exactly right.

Is it free?

Yes. Enter your email and the download link shows up right away. We don't send you anything automatically, and you won't be signed up for The Rewire unless you choose to.

How do I stop saying sorry in emails?

Start with one swap, the one you use most, and use it every time for a few weeks. Before you send, count the sorrys and ask whether each one is about real harm. If it isn't, say what happened and what comes next.

What can I say instead of "sorry for the delay"?

Name the impact and give a date: "I know you needed this last week. I'm aiming to send it by Wednesday. Will that work?" It owns the delay without five apologies.

Is it ever okay to say sorry at work?

Yes. When you've caused real harm, one sincere "I'm sorry" plus the fix is the right move. Sympathy for someone's loss or hard week is always welcome. The guide is about the reflex, not the real thing.

Is this therapy?

No. It's a writing guide informed by brain and behavior research and written by a brain-based coach. If you're struggling, please reach out to someone you trust.